Online Marriage Book Club: Team Us (Week 6)

Online Marriage Book Club: Team Us (week 6)

Welcome to week five of our online marriage book club! If this is your first time here at Fulfilling Your Vows, we are so grateful to have you. For our current book club, we are  working through Team Us: Marriage Together. One great feature you can expect during the course of the book club is to have a Q&A section at the end of each weekly post that gives more candid insight into author Ashleigh and husband Ted’s marriage.

This Week’s Reading (Chapter 5)

This week we are working through Chapter 5. We encourage you and your spouse to read through the introduction together or separately (which ever works best for you) and then schedule a time to chat about it. It is best to write anything down that jumps out at you so you can discuss it further with your spouse. We also encourage you both to pray together asking God to open your heart to receive what He wants to show you each week.

This Week’s Video Discussion

This week we filmed outside in the beautiful California sunshine so you may see the sunshine peeking through – hope you don’t mind. Without any further ado, let’s dive into week 6!

Want to dig deeper? For further study, please visit Ashleigh’s blog for a free downloadable study guide.

We’d love to hear your thoughts on this week’s study! Please leave your comments below or go ahead and start a conversation over in the Facebook community!

Q&A With Ted & Ashleigh

What would you say to a couple that was walking in forgiveness with one another only to have a fresh incident bring up old wounds?

Ashleigh

I love what Ted says in the book. He writes, “Forgiveness doesn’t make logical sense. It’s out of balance, giving trust when it hasn’t been earned. It’s just not fair, the injured forgoing justice, not seeking recompense. Truly forgiving and forgetting – completely letting go of a wrongdoing – is one of the most difficult, most helpful things Ashleigh and I can do to breathe life into our relationship.” He’s right! We’ve seen it time and time again. So to the couple who is struggling with old wounds, I’d say don’t give up. Keep forgiving, even though it’s hard because there is life and freedom for your relationship in forgiveness.

Ted

See this as an opportunity to do the hard work of forgiving. Maybe the day-to-day “walking in forgiveness” is like that kind of weight training where you do lots of reps with fairly little weight. But the “fresh incident” kind of “walking in forgiveness” — maybe that’s more like power lifting, wrestling with the heavy weights. I think that metaphor is fine — practice the light-weight reps so that when it’s time for the heavy weights, you can do it without breaking a bone or tearing a tendon or something. And when you have to lift those heavy weights, just know that it’s part of the regimen. It’s an expected part of life. And just like when you’re lifting weights, it’s probably a good idea to have a spotter.

See you back here next week!

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