Words Can Build Up a Marriage
Words are powerful. They can change the world. They can change a person’s life.
As wives we have the ability to change our husband’s life with the words we speak. It will not always be easy, but the outcome will bring about abundant blessings.
Words can speak love. They can draw people to us. They can deepen one’s love for another.
As wives we have the opportunity to reveal our love to our husbands by the words we speak. It can change their lives…and ours.
Think just for a moment over the last few days. What have your words to your husband spoken?
Did they bring life? Laughter? Love? Pain? Anger? Resentment?
Words Can Build Up a Marriage
Often our days are busy and words are spoken in haste rather than being thought out. The result of a day’s hastily spoken words can be harmful to a marriage. If we are not careful with our words, we will become like the the brawling woman mentioned in Proverbs.
It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with
a brawling woman and in a wide house. – Proverbs 25:24
Words can build up a marriage or they can be detrimental to a marriage.
When was the last time you sang your husband’s praises?
After his latest accomplishment did you praise him for the work he completed?
Throughout the book of love (Song of Solomon), we see praises between a man and a woman. Descriptive feelings, loving words, and admiration for each other abound in these few chapters! This is the kind of love we all long for, a deep and abiding love between a husband and a wife that nothing can break apart.
As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.
As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the
sons.His left hand is under my heart, and his right hand doth embrace me.
– Song of Solomon 2:2, 3 & 6
The question is, are we willing to follow this example to find the deep love we long for?
Love takes time.
Are you willing to sing your husband’s praises through time?
Speaking a few words of praise takes only a moment, but their effect can last a lifetime.
We will be remembered by the words we speak. What kind of words will you be remembered for?
How we speak about our husbands can cause them to draw nearer to us or to pull away from us. We must learn to truly think before we speak. We must learn to sing their praises more often. If we would take time to be more intentional in singing our husband’s praises, then the moments that we do speak hastily will be less harshly received.
Singing our husband’s praises must be backed up with our actions.
We must never forget how powerful words are, but we must also remember that actions often speak more loudly than words. So, while the words that we speak are of great importance, our actions must not represent the opposite of what we speak.
It is better not to speak praise if our actions do not line up with our words, because our husbands will come to doubt the words we speak because of our actions.
I held him and would not let him go… – Song of Solomon 3:4
I will seek him whom my soul loveth… – Song of Solomon 3:2
In order for us to have the deep love that our hearts desire, we must be willing to pursue it. The deep love between a husband and a wife can be yours, if you are willing to put forth the effort to build up your marriage.
Carefully selecting the words you speak and putting them into action will strengthen the love between you and your husband. It’s important that you not fail to make this connection.
Your words must line up with how you treat your husband.
Some marriages will require patience while God works on your spouse. When you focus on singing your spouse’s praises and ensuring your actions line up with those praises, you will be contributing to God’s working in him. If you’re in a marriage where this applies, do not lose heart, God is able to bring about miracles and beauty from ashes!
Guest Author:
Misty is a Daughter of THE King, Texas girl, Navy brat at heart, loving Fisherman’s wife, blessed homeschooling mother of 2, founder of Year Round Homeschooling and author of Beautiful Ashes.
