Your Marriage or Your Kids: Which Should Be Your Priority?

Marriage or your kids…which should be your priority? Today we are going to see what the Bible has to say about this topic!

Let’s face it, time alone with your spouse is something most couples are lacking, especially when kids are in the picture. Before we can spend time with our beloved, the tasks of the day must be finished, housework and schoolwork need to be completed, baths and story time must be done.

And all this before you can think about having a conversation without interruption or watch a movie that doesn’t include super heroes or singing princesses.

Oftentimes by the time the day’s tasks are done, sleep is the only thing on your mind, and your alone time is simply crawling into bed together exhausted. Yet, is this the picture of marriage that we want to show our kids? Did God really design our marriage relationship to be second in importance after our relationships with our children?

Your Marriage or Your Kids: Which Should Be Your Priority?

In the Bible we see that God did not design our marriage relationship to be less important after we have children. In Ephesians 5 we see what God’s design is for marriage:

• Submission
• Leading
• Love
• Reverence

In Ephesians 6 God gives direction to children and to parents.

Children are to:

• Obey
• Honor

Parents are to:

• Provoke not
• Raise children in the Lord

Our children are gifts and a responsibility that God has given us, so we must ensure that we are being the parents God calls us to be. We also must be diligent and ensure that our marriage is the priority according to God’s design.

The directions from the Lord to parents are that we are to train our children and raise them as unto the Lord. The instruction for our marriage is to draw near to God and each other; to become one flesh.

How can we become one flesh if we place our relationships with our children in priority?

Our marriage relationship is to be likened to Jesus’ relationship with the church as Ephesians 5:22-25 & 32 states.

While our marriages will never be perfect without spot, wrinkle, or blemish, we must ensure that our marriage is a priority to us just as we are a priority to Christ.

The beautiful relationship that we as the church have with Christ is available to us in our marriage if we follow God’s design and instructions.

If your marriage relationship is struggling or if you’ve had your priorities mixed up, take some time to seek the Lord’s specific direction for you and start following the basic instructions He’s given you in Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 7.

Don’t be discouraged if your marriage relationship is not where you’d like it to be. A relationship goes through ups and downs in life; it’s the growing together through these times that begins to create a marriage as designed by God.

How do you ensure your marriage is your priority?

What makes it hard for you to keep your marriage the priority that it must be?

Guest Post Author:

Misty is a Daughter of THE King, Texas girl always, Navy brat at heart, loving Fisherman’s wife, blessed mother of 2 and author of Beautiful Ashes. She is passionate about being real throughout all of life’s struggles, successes and dreams. Her heart is full of ideas and passions, but the hours in her day never multiply to get it all done. Misty loves writing and reading in her spare time. Music and photography are favorite past times of hers as well. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, G+ and Blog Lovin.

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